Looking the other way

A new study published in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour, which examined the porn-viewing habits of 821 gay, straight, and bisexual men from around the US, found that 55 percent of gay men watch straight porn, and 21 percent of straight men watch gay porn, according to The Advocate.

Dr. Martin J. Downing, the study’s lead researcher, sees this “identity discrepant viewing” as “some level of evidence” of fluidity in sexual attraction, at least in terms of what people are watching.

There’s more. Bi men reported watching guy-on-guy porn just as much as gay men do, and they consumed heterosexual porn almost as much as heterosexual men. According to Downing, bisexual men aren’t “watered down gays or heterosexuals.”

http://www.advocate.com/current-issue/2017/1/04/one-five-straight-men-watches-gay-sex

Matthew’s missing

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There’s one abbreviation, though, that to me brings neither excitement nor pleasure, nor anger nor dislike, but only a vague sinking of the heart. LGBT — or “the LGBT community”.

This community does not exist. The bolting together of dissimilar groups distorts understanding. LGBT isn’t a club I’m in,

writes Matthew Paris in the Times.

People routinely employ the expression “LGBT community”, but neither out there on the streets nor as a classification in social sciences does this community exist. The Ls and the Gs have lots of friends who aren’t either. Bisexual men don’t self-identify much as a group or feel drawn particularly to each other for friendship and fun.

Bye bye Matthew. When you need us, we’ll be there.

http://www.theaustralian.com.au/news/world/the-times/matthew-parris-heres-why-i-want-to-leave-the-lgbt-club/news-story/f546a783321780a0f03b3c1e0dfab849

Have yourself a bromosexual little Christmas

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The Daily Mail have been worrying about bromosexuals. The New York Times recently devoted an article to ‘The Rise of the ‘Bromosexual’ Friendship.’

Gay men – particularly those in conservative and rural environments – remain wary about trying to befriend straight men, fearing prejudice-fueled rejection.
At the same time, many straight men still doubt that they’ll be able to relate to gay men in any meaningful way and, for this reason, may not try to initiate a friendship. Of course, the traditional notion that gay men and straight men cannot be close friends is inherently homophobic and untrue.

Yes of course. Pass the mince pies please.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-4030120/The-rise-bromosexual-Researchers-reveal-rise-straight-gay-friendships-say-ultimate-wing-men-other.html

http://www.newnownext.com/bromosexual-gay-straight-friends/10/2016/

The not so secret teacher

The Guardian has a “secret teacher” section. One of their contributors tells the story of coming out.

I told my new head of department that I was thinking about revealing my sexuality at school. Her only concern was that some members of the team might offend me by making jokes – though with the aim of making me feel part of the team. I then broached my intentions with the headteacher. He’s old-school, in a good way, traditionalist but totally living in the real world. He didn’t bat an eyelid and told me to get on with it.

Then the teacher wondered how to manage the event with pupils, and what their reaction was going to be.

An opportunity came when I took on a Y11 tutor group as a maternity cover. In our first session, one of the students asked straight out if I was gay. I answered with an emphatic “Yes”. I waited for the booing or the pretending-to-be-sick noises, but none came. A group of girls wanted to know if I was single (I’d recently broken up with someone) and whether I’d have a civil ceremony (yes, if I met the right guy) but otherwise it was a non-event. I do think my honesty served to make them trust me quickly – vital in a pastoral role – but my sexuality was ultimately quite boring.

Being out at work means you can just get on with things without it following you around. Eventually everybody forgets, because you have been accepted for what you are.

https://www.theguardian.com/teacher-network/2016/oct/29/secret-teacher-school-gay-tell-pupils

Bi men paid less, says study

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Bisexual men are paid on average a third less than their heterosexual counterparts. The study by Professor Alex Bryson, of UCL’s Institute of Education also shows that gay men and lesbians earn about the same as heterosexuals, as do bisexual women.

In an article in the journal Work, Employment & Society, published by the British Sociological Association, Bryson explains that the average gross hourly earnings for bisexual men were £9.39, compared with £12.30 for heterosexual men, a gap of 31%. Conversely, average hourly earnings for gay men were £13.33, £1.03 more than for heterosexual men.

The study, which used data from the Workplace Employment Relations Survey conducted in 2011 and 2012, also showed that the average hourly earnings for lesbians were £9.87, similar to the £9.97 earned by heterosexual women. The average hourly earnings for bisexual women were £9.58.

The study included 312 gay men and lesbians, 118 bisexuals, 18,635 heterosexuals and 986 people who declined to identify their sexuality.

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/oct/22/bisexual-men-earn-30-per-cent-less-than-gay-colleagues

Luxembourg’s gay refugees

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I think this is the first time in 18 years that I have blogged a story from Luxembourg.

Bong.

Of the gay refugees who do live in Luxembourg safe places, few are open about their sexuality, writes the Luxembourg Wort.

Asylum seeker Mano fled his war-torn home of Syria because of harassment and intolerance over his sexual orientation.

“I always knew I was different. I didn’t know what the difference was or what it was called, but I knew I had a secret to guard,” Mano said, adding: “That was a decade ago. Even in my worst nightmare, I didn’t dream that one day my beautiful country would implode. When I was 15, before I came to terms with my identity, my parents suspected something was ‘wrong’ with me and sent me to a therapist. He told them I was gay.”

Mano said when his family and the community where he lived in Idlib found out, they confirmed his worst fears about prejudice.

“Most of them believed—and probably still do—that gay people like me should be hospitalised, imprisoned and even killed. I felt desperately alone.”

Mano said he was saved by the Internet, where he learned there were other people like him who lived happy, normal lives.

Yes, if only your Activist had had the information freely available now on the internet when he was 14.

http://www.wort.lu/en/luxembourg/a-new-start-in-luxembourg-when-you-are-a-refugee-and-gay-58071d7f5061e01abe83a95e

More exciting news from the department of hyped up statistics

About 20% straight men watch gay porn according to a new study widely reported today.

Researchers investigated the porn habits of men and whether the films changed their behaviour. They found that 21 per cent of straight men said they had watched same-sex porn in the past six months.

55 per cent of gay participants in the study said they had watched opposite-gender-oriented porn in that time. There was a 96 and 88 per cent split between bisexual men who watched gay or straight porn.

821 men were questioned about their porn preferences, including whether they prefer to watch adult actors using condoms, by the US organisation Public Health Solutions.

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/porn-pornhub-sex-gay-straight-study-habits-a7360866.html

We know who you are

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The number of Britons describing themselves as bisexual has soared by 45 per cent in just three years. In 2012, 230,000 people said they were bisexual – a total that rose to 334,000 in 2015. More young adults aged 16 to 24 describe themselves as ‘bi’ rather than exclusively gay or lesbian – an increase from 76,000 to 133,000 over the same period.

The increase among those who said they were solely gay or lesbian was less pronounced, from 541,000 to 586,000 over the three years.

The ONS found that 1.1 per cent of the population describe themselves as gay or lesbian.

Men are more likely than women to identify as LGB – 2 per cent of men against 1.5 per cent of women. Younger people are also more likely to say they are LGB – 3.3 per cent of people aged 16 to 24 did so, against 2.7 per cent of those aged 25 to 34, 1.7 per cent in the 35 to 49 age group, and only 0.6 per cent of over-65s.

Does your Activist believe the figures? Ha ha ha …

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3824109/One-30-young-people-Britain-say-gay-lesbian-bisexual-according-new-figures.html

Intersex Germans want better

Intersex people in Germany are asking their Federal Constitutional Court to officially allow them to use their own gender designations rather than relegating them to “male” or “female.” An estimated 80,000 people in Germany identify as intersex, meaning that they don’t display the gender traits of people generally described as “male” or “female.”

“Always having to make this decision, with only the categories ‘man’ and ‘woman’ to choose from, means that intersex people constantly have to deny their own existence,” said Moritz Schmidt, of the advocacy group Dritte Option (Third Option), which is seeking a decision on gender designation at the Constitional Court. “They become invisible as people, and this is a violation of the right of personality.”

http://www.dw.com/en/intersex-people-put-gender-binary-on-trial-in-karlsruhe/a-19524785

Christian singer comes out

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Trey Pearson, lead singer of the Christian rock band Everyday Sunday, has come out as gay. In a letter published at the end of May, Pearson acknowledged that he had spent 20 years trying not to be gay, and despite the fact he has a wife and two young children, he could not pretend any longer, reports Think Progress.

“Trying not to be gay, has only led to a desire for intimacy in friendships, which pushed friends away, and it has resulted in a marriage where I couldn’t love or satisfy my wife in a way that she needed. When Lauren and I got married, I committed to loving her to the best of my ability, and I had the full intention of spending the rest of my life with her. Despite our best efforts, however, I have come to accept that there is nothing that is going to change who I am.”

Christian Rock Singer Comes Out, An Ex-Gay Freakout Ensues