Ex-Gay Movement
What do Ex-Gays believe?
“Ex-gays” believe that through prayer and therapy the alteration of a person’s sexual orientation is possible.
This position is rejected by all US leading mental health professional groups, including the American Medical Association, the American Psychiatric Association and the American Psychological Association.
Many people who go through the process end up not as functioning heterosexuals but as homosexuals pushed into mental breakdowns and/or other mental health problems.
The Ex-Gay Movement
This is a number of organisations which have become established in America, and are also establishing in Europe and the UK, claiming that they can cure people of their same-sex sexuality and turn them straight.
There is nothing new about attempts to reorient people’s sexuality and there have been many attempts to do so ranging from medical experimentation and operations performed under the Nazis to drug, electric shock and other treatments.
Organisations which claim to have been successful in converting people from gay to straight often define success as the supression of a homoerotic response or the mere display of same-sex behaviour. A person who has achieved that has fallen far short of adopting opposite-sex sexuality and behaviour. But nobody, not even the best doctor in the world, has the right to deprive a person of their natural capacity for sexual response to other persons.
Closer examination of their claims and data reveals more inconsistencies. It is possible, for instance, that many of the men they claim to have cured were not gay but bisexual men and all they have done is suppress part of their sexual response.
Also, how can they prove their therapy worked? The person may have just changed their mind about who they are and the therapy may have had no part to play in that.
One of the main American ex-gay movements was shown to be a fraud when its principal spokesman was photographed in a gay bar displaying what was clearly the very same-sex behaviour he was supposed to have been cured of.
What are the motives behind these ex-gay organisations?
Some of them are clearly connected with particular religious organisations or churches. The Catholic faith currently tells gay and lesbian Catholics they can be lesbian and gay but must not have sex. They are behind organisations which campaign to persuade gays and lesbians to adopt that life style. Anglicans, too, are in turmoil over Christ¹s teaching on homosexuality. For every quotation in the Bible which appears to cite same-sex love as a sin, there is another which states the very opposite, such as a famous saying of Christ in Mark. It is possible, of course, that people who have formed a particular interpretation of their faith, have done so selectively, selecting points of view which agree with views they have already formed; in other words their own prejudices have informed and shaped their judgement and interpretation. They may be right, or they may be wrong. Other organisations may be funded by right-wing parties, ministries and organisations, who have a particular policy to promote, or are funded by right-wing or specific religious and industrial/economic interests.
What is the truth about changing your sexuality?
Well, of course you always have the right to change your mind about anything and that includes your sexuality. But the majority of us find that our attraction to people of either the same or the opposite sex is something we are given from birth and cannot change. The best research available so far was published by the American Psychiatric Association in 2001. Dr Ariel Schidlo and Dr Michael Schroeder examined 200 persons who had been through ex-gay treatments. 178 of them, or 88%, reported that the treatment had completely failed and there had been no change. Of the remainder, only 6 (3%) had experienced a change or a shift in their attraction. More disturbingly Dr Schidlo and Dr Schroeder reported that the majority of the persons were harmed by the attempt to change their sexuality.
In March 2009, Michael King of University College London revealed research that found “There is very little evidence to show that attempting to treat a person’s homosexual feelings is effective and in fact it can actually be harmful”. One in six psychotherapists have admitted they have tried to help ‘cure’ clients of their homosexual desires. All failed. 1,400 therapists were asked if they would now try to change a patient’s sexual orientation if asked to do so. 56, or 4% said they would.
Is a sexuality change therapy ethical?
Even if these therapies did work, they are unethical. Dr Gerald Davison, former president of the Association for the Advancement of Behaviour Therapy in 1991 argued that change-of-orientation programs are ethically improper and that their availability only confirms the existence of prejudice in society and the medical profession. His view was adopted.
So we get to the key facts about ex-gay therapies
- These are programs devised by people and organisations who are prejudiced against us and who want to bend us to their will so we can be reprogrammed to obey their organisations and churches.
- By agreeing to undergo such therapies we deny ourselves our basic human right to be ourselves, we devalue ourselves, and we harm ourselves.
The damage they do
The American Psychiatric Association concluded that: ”There is no published scientific evidence supporting the efficacy of reparative therapy as a treatment to change one¹s sexual orientation results have not been conclusive, nor have they been replicated there is no evidence that any treatment can change a homosexual person’s deep seated sexual feelings for others of the same sex clinical experience suggests that any person who seeks conversion therapy may be doing so because of social bias that has resulted in internalised homophobia, and that gay men and lesbians who have accepted their sexual orientation positively are better adjusted than those who have not done so.”
In more detail, the harm done consists of:
- depression
- anxiety and self-destructive behaviour
- being told lies about gay people, for instance that they are always lonely and unhappy and never achieve acceptance,
success or personal satisfaction
- self harm or suicide.
So gay men and lesbians are being bullied by Ex-Gay organisations into undergoing a pointless therapy which does not work but instead harms them. When they accept such treatments they are doing it for the benefit of the ex-gay organisation, not themselves.
What should we do?
If a psychiatrist or doctor has a patient who is a gay man or lesbian who has absorbed society’s lies and prejudice, and wants to change his or her sexuality, what is the correct thing to do? They should help their patient overcome those prejudices and accept themselves so they can live a normal, happy life with a partner of their own choosing.
The obvious tasks for us as gay men and lesbians who want to help others and fight prejudice are therefore to:
- counter the propaganda of these organisations with the facts
- celebrate our successes and promote role models from our community to show that we are just as likely to succeed and be happy in life as everyone else is
- support people who have been bullied into having these treatments and help them recover from them
- campaign to have these treatments banned.
Page updated 30 March 2009
I appreciate your web site and its diversity of information.
I would like to add to your article above, that there is an unfounded assumption of benignity within the psychiatric profession.
“If a psychiatrist or doctor has a patient who is a gay man or lesbian who has absorbed society’s lies and prejudice, and wants to change his or her sexuality, what is the correct thing to do? They should help their patient overcome those prejudices and accept themselves so they can live a normal, happy life with a partner of their own choosing.”
Good advice for a rational psychiatrist or doctor. But not all care providers are rational.
As a victim of a psychiatrist’s homophobia, in which she repeatedly told me that I MUST pray to become straight (I kid you not) I know better. Homophobic fundamentalists infest the psychiatric profession. While a patient in Klinikum Herford in Germany I was subject to a devastating attack by a fundamentalist homophobe (name removed by editor).
One should not under-estimate the vulnerabilty of gay men and women seeking mental health care in times of crisis. It is not so easy under these circumstances to stand up to homophobia.
Many years ago a district nurse was sent to me at my home to take my stitches out after an operation. When he started preaching to me he was thrown out of the house. I then made a formal complaint about his behaviour.
These people are paid to do a job and only the job they are paid to do and if you ever come in contact with such a professional you should leave and put in a complaint about their professional misconduct. If you do not, then they will go on abusing other patients in the same way until somebody else puts in a complaint.